2 Easy Steps to Your Self-Care Diagnosis

2 Easy Steps to Your Self-Care Diagnosis

What do I mean by self-care?

I mean giving yourself whatever it is you need to feel refreshed, relaxed and more like your best self.

For some of us, that may involve setting aside an entire afternoon for an outdoor adventure like running, biking or rock climbing.

For others, self-care may take the form of getting a massage or curling up on the couch to watch a movie with a loved one.

And when times are really rough, minimum self-care can involve an early bedtime, a much needed shower or a healthful meal. Sometimes these basic needs can pay dividends when you're super stressed.

How to Be Kind to A-Holes at Work

How to Be Kind to A-Holes at Work

My theory based on thirty-some-odd years of observation is that we are born knowing that kindness is the way to go, then something teaches us to be unkind. Blame a messed-up home life, butthead classmates, anxiety disorders or whatever.

Presto change-o, a jerk is made.

So besides the obvious reasons (e.g., nobody likes a butthole, you get more flies with honey than vinegar, it’s unprofessional), here are some helpful nuggets to prevent you from losing your shit when dealing with jerks in the workplace.

3 Strategies for Sticking to Your Goals

3 Strategies for Sticking to Your Goals

Time to take action!

Sounds simple enough, I know. But if it really were so simple, why do most people fail to take meaningful steps toward meeting their resolutions by the time February rolls around?

Because change is SCARY.

Yup. Even welcome change can be enough to derail the most motivated goal-setter if the foundation for success isn’t solid. Happens to the best of us.

The good news is you can keep fear at bay by using these three strategies.

5 Steps to a New Year's Resolution You'll Actually Keep

5 Steps to a New Year's Resolution You'll Actually Keep

It’s that time again.  The beginning of a new year when we’re bombarded with messages of resolution making:  Eat healthier!  Get out of debt!  Quit [insert bad habit here]!

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not against making a resolution or two (or more), but I am against making resolutions that have no chance of being kept.

Wanna learn how to create a New Year’s resolution you’ll actually keep?

Law School Has Gone to the Dogs (Seriously, Actual Dogs)

Law School Has Gone to the Dogs (Seriously, Actual Dogs)

Yale was one of the first to feature a therapy dog. Monty is a therapy dog owned by one of the law librarians. Students can check out Monty (like a book) for 20 minutes of play and snuggle time during certain times of year. Turns out Monty’s so popular that he’s always got a booked schedule.

California Western School of Law, University of Louisville, George Mason, Emory, University of Arizona, Stetson and University of San Francisco are just a smattering of some other law schools who have invited therapy dogs to campus during finals season.

The Case for Reaching Out

The Case for Reaching Out

Research shows that reaching out to others -- especially when you need help with a problem -- strengthens relationships and even causes others to view you as courageous.

Seriously.

Asking for help makes you look badass.

I bring this up because I find that so many of us in the legal arena are terrified of looking weak, helpless or stupid. In other words, we’re afraid of appearing vulnerable.

Not Your Average Shame Spiral

Not Your Average Shame Spiral

I’ll never forget visiting American University Law School in the spring of 2002. My friend and I were in DC checking out law schools, and one of our mutual friend’s sister (I’ll call her Angela) was a 1L at American.

What made the trip so unforgettable is that Angela’s 1L class was severely over-enrolled.

Something like double the anticipated number of applicants matriculated. Angela attended Harvard for grad school, so she was no stranger to hard work or competition.

Nevertheless, everything she told us about her law school experience was characterized by the notion of scarcity.

My Burnout Story

My Burnout Story

I always knew I wanted to be a lawyer.

Career day at school was a no-brainer. College majors were generally irrelevant. Just get good grades, get into a good law school and then start working as an attorney. Seemed simple and easy enough. And I always took solace in the fact that law school wasn’t an afterthought for me, like it was for so many of my colleagues.

What I hadn't anticipated was that a legal career might not be a long-term fit for me.