Can Lawyers Really Have It All?

Can Lawyers Really Have It All?

A prestigious, high-paying career. Fulfilling marriage. Happy kidlets. The physique of a 20-something despite the effects of pregnancy, a sedentary job and aging. I believed these were totally doable.

As for getting enough sleep, downtime to recharge, outings with gal pals, time and money for vacations, sick days, household upkeep, pet care and enjoying some GD peace and quiet once in a while?

Naive younger-me took all of these for granted. Present day-me could’ve killed for them.

Lawyers Suck at Listening

Lawyers Suck at Listening

Oh, don’t act so shocked. You know it’s true.

Even if you’re an exceptionally sensitive lawyer, you’re still stuck dealing with other lawyers. And you’re not exactly a fan of being cut off, condescended to and treated as though your time isn’t as important as theirs.

So how would you feel about paying someone hundreds of dollars an hour to treat you the same way? All while trusting that person to solve one of the biggest problems you’ve ever had.

Why Uncertainty Isn't So Bad + How to Embrace It

Why Uncertainty Isn't So Bad + How to Embrace It

Sitting in the auditorium during orientation, I listened to various deans, distinguished alumni, and student leaders drone on about the rigors of earning a law degree.

There were obligatory mentions of not everyone making it to graduation (or even the end of the first week) and of the intense strain on personal relationships.

But the message I remembered most clearly was about uncertainty.

Honoring Your Authentic Self

Honoring Your Authentic Self

One thing you probably haven’t thought about in relation to your legal career is whether or not you’re being true to your authentic self.

What does that even mean? Enough with the life coachy bullshit already!

I’m talking about being the person you truly are at your core.

Not the person your parents want you to be. Or that your friends see. Or that your boss expects.

How Being a Lawyer Prepared Me for Mamahood

How Being a Lawyer Prepared Me for Mamahood

I knew I wanted to be a lawyer for as long as I can remember. (Don’t even get me started on the fallout I experienced by following an uninformed childhood dream.) I also knew that I wanted to be a mama. And as I got older, I became more aware of the challenges that being both presented.

I told myself I could handle the challenges of doing each well, but deep down I didn’t want to do both. I’m one of those people who just doesn’t half-ass anything.  And I knew that if I could have things my way, I’d be whole-assing the mama thing.